Wednesday, April 25, 2007

Oh the Places You Will Go

Oh the Places You Will Go is one of my favorite Dr. Seuss books. I think it reminds us that life can be extremely tough at times, but we will be just fine if we keep on the road and face up to each challenge as it presents itself. It's about challenges and change. It describes up times and down times, waiting times and stressful times.
This book was read to us at my college graduation. It still pertains to my life today.
Here are words from Oh the Place's You'll Go!

Today is your day. You're off to Great Places!

You're off and away! You have brains in your head.

You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.
You're on your own. And you know what you know.

And YOU are the guy who'll decide where to go. You'll look up and down streets.
Look 'em over with care. About some you will say, "I don't choose to go there."

With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet, you're too smart to go down any not-so-good street.

And you may not find any you'll want to go down. In that case, of course, you'll head straight out of town.

It's opener therein the wide open air. Out there things can happen and frequently do to people as brainy and footsy as you.

And when things start to happen, don't worry. Don't stew. Just go right along. You'll start happening too.


You'll be on your way up! You'll be seeing great sights! You'll join the high fliers who soar to high heights.

You won't lag behind, because you'll have the speed. You'll pass the whole gang and you'll soon take the lead.

Wherever you fly, you'll be the best of the best. Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.

Except when you don' t Because, sometimes, you won't. I'm sorry to say sobut, sadly, it's true and Hang-up scan happen to you.

You can get all hung upin a prickle-ly perch. And your gang will fly on. You'll be left in a Lurch.

You'll come down from the Lurch with an unpleasant bump. And the chances are, then, that you'll be in a Slump.

And when you're in a Slump, you're not in for much fun. Un-slumping yourself is not easily done.

You will come to a place where the streets are not marked. Some windows are lighted.

But mostly they're darked. A place you could sprain both you elbow and chin!

Do you dare to stay out? Do you dare to go in? How much can you lose?

How much can you win? And IF you go in, should you turn left or right...or right-and-three-quarters?

Or, maybe, not quite? Or go around back and sneak in from behind?

Simple it's not, I'm afraid you will find, for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind.

You can get so confused that you'll start in to racedown long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space, headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.

The Waiting Place......for people just waiting.

Waiting for a train to goor a bus to come, or a plane to goor the mail to come, or the rain to goor the phone to ring, or the snow to snowor waiting around for a Yes or a Noor waiting for their hair to grow.

Everyone is just waiting. Waiting for the fish to bite or waiting for wind to fly a kiteor waiting around for Friday nightor waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jakeor a pot to boil, or a Better Breakor a sting of pearls, or a pair of pantsor a wig with curls, or Another Chance.

Everyone is just waiting. NO!That's not for you! Somehow you'll escapeall that waiting and staying.

You'll find the bright places where Boom Bands are playing. With banner flip-flapping, once more you'll ride high!

Ready for anything under the sky. Ready because you're that kind of a guy!

Oh, the places you'll go!

There is fun to be done! There are points to be scored. There are games to be won.

And the magical things you can do with that ball will make you the winning-est winner of all.

Fame! You'll be famous as famous can be,with the whole wide world watching you win on TV.

Except when they don't. Because, sometimes, they won't. I'm afraid that some times you'll play lonely games too.

Games you can't win'cause you'll play against you. All Alone! Whether you like it or not, Alone will be something you'll be quite a lot.

And when you're alone, there's a very good chance you'll meet things that scare you right out of your pants.

There are some, down the road between hither and yon, that can scare you so much you won't want to go on.

But on you will go though the weather be foul. On you will go though your enemies prowl

On you will go though the Hakken-Kraks howl Onward up manya frightening creek, though your arms may get sore and your sneakers may leak.

On and on you will hike and I know you'll hike far and face up to your problems whatever they are.

You'll get mixed up, of course, as you already know. You'll get mixed upwith many strange birds as you go.

So be sure when you step. Step with care and great tactand remember that Life's a Great Balancing Act.

Just never forget to be dexterous and deft. And never mix up your right foot with your left.

And will you succeed? Yes! You will, indeed!(98 and 3 / 4 percent guaranteed.)

KID, YOU'LL MOVE MOUNTAINS! your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Brayor Mordecai Ali Van Allen O'Shea, you're off to Great Places!

Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting.

So...get on your way!

Thursday, April 12, 2007

7 months....

I started to say Happy 7 Months. But it is far from happy. We also passed our 1 year anniversary from starting the process. Looking back I see how naive I was. A year ago when we announced we were doing this, I thought we would be in China in the Fall of 07. Well our paperchase took 2 months longer because of the ATL USCIS office. My next train of thought was we will be in China by Dec 2007. wrong again.

Now best guess is between Sept 2008 and Dec 2008 -- leaning towards Dec 2008.

This plain sucks.

What I find is amazing is that people are getting LIDS this month, April 2007 and they think they will travel by the end of 2008. What planet are they living on? There is something to be said for being optimistic, but these people need a reality check! Be prepared for a 3 year wait.

Our medical checklist is at the agency. Well there are over 200 people ahead of us and it is served based off when the checklist went to agency then if there is a match on our list. So....this could be a complete waste of time. I sincerely hope I'm wrong.

Tuesday, April 10, 2007

Referrals are in!!!

For a stinking two days. Yes they only matched 2 days. The end of October and November of 2005 are suppose to be very large. People say they still matched the same number of referrals it is just that there are a large number of people waiting with these LIDs. That doesn't help us feel any better.

I'm also tired of hearing "it will be worth the wait". I'm sure it will be but again it doesn't help now. We didn't plan on a 28 month wait.
So what are we doing to shorten it? Well we filled out our agencies medical checklist for special needs. There are certain minor needs that we could handle plus we are open to a boy so maybe we can be matched via their waiting child program. We are persuing the waiting child program through our agency so according to China we are still in the non-special needs track. We just have to wait and see.

Also we are now looking into Ethiopia as option. The waiting times are much quicker but the program is very new and who knows how stable. We are going to take the next month or so and research this option.

Friday, April 06, 2007

I know this is suppose to be about adoption but...

I couldn't resist.
Check this video out...

My Aunt Jane knows more than my RE

RE means Reproductive Endocronologist (aka infertility doc).

Wednesday, April 04, 2007

Waiting for Referrals is like a late Period

Well it is getting to be that time of the month. And no I'm talking about my period. It is the time of the month when referrals come in. Well they are late. They have been referring towards the end of each month/first couple days of the next month. What does this do to people?

Well if this was a period.....what happens when you are late with your period. Well if you have been trying to get pregnant, you get very anxious, very excited, cannot concentrate, and take every pregnancy test known to man. When you pee on the stick, what happens, it is negative and then your period starts. Well that has been the story of my attempts to get pregnant. Or even worse you get a positive, then you get a "period". What the hell. How do you even react to that? By taking more tests, drinking or enhaling water, then pee again 10 minutes later. Only to find out that you either had a bad test, or you had an early miscarriage.

Well the fact referrals are a day or two late, it is driving everyone on the boards crazy. Even though it is not our turn, what happens now affect us in the future. So you get very anxious, very excited, cannot concentrate and you check every email or Rumor Queen multiple times a day. The Rumor Queen board is like a pregancy check (the pee), they then say yep referrals are on the way (the positive test), then you wait (drinking of the water), then you go back to the board (pee again), find out that referrals are not coming (nope not pregnant).